Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviours, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a colleague) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.

How I Will Work With You

Firstly you will need to be motivated to change and learn new ways of behaving, we will look closely at activating events and explore the history of your anger. We will focus quite specifically on understanding and change.

Some of the things we will explore together are: recognising triggers and exploring a range of responses, understanding how your internal dialogue and faulty thinking impact on situations, calming yourself and your feelings, communicating feelings.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

My approach is EMDR. I will also help you to understand the CBT model.

Remember, you can’t eliminate anger and it wouldn’t be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can’t change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you.


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